Must-haves for 2012: black dress, heels you can walk in, and a mission statement

I graduated university with what I thought was an unbeatable, winning combination that would set me up for success as soon as I peeled off my cap and gown: a bachelor’s degree, four co-op placements, extensive retail and volunteer experience and a passion for doing good.  But the contract I was on at my first full-time job could not be renewed, and I couldn’t seem to find something to replace it.  My boyfriend and I had also just broken up, and it was one of those splits that grabs your heart, grinds it into hamburger and hands it back to you, expecting you to just keep on going like nothing happened.  All my friends were already working, and I was feeling lonely and sorry for myself.  Before I knew it I was sitting at home on a weekday afternoon with a bachelor’s degree, four co-op placements, extensive retail and volunteer experience and a passion that was slowly dwindling by the minute.  Needless to say, this was NOT going well.  I had big dreams about "making it" after I graduated, and these road blocks were getting in the way of that.  It would have been easy to get discouraged, and I was for while.  That got boring pretty quick, though, so I gave my head a shake and I started telling myself every morning that I determine my futureI am made for something/somewhere/someone special, and I will do everything I can to get there.  I didn’t know it right then, but this was, in fact, my mission statement.  And it seemed that as soon as I put that kind of spirited energy out into the world, my train started to get moving again.  Of course, it hasn’t been without bumps and stalls and at times, two steps backward.  But it’s been in those moments that my mission statement proved even more valuable, and helped me realize that things often don’t happen to you, but rather for you (shout-out to the way inspirational Amber Rae, for her poignant Ambergrams and whose blog us YWiB-ers turn to when days get rough!). So in addition to stellar high heels, a power black dress and a pen in your purse at all times, add “personal mission statement” to your list of must-haves for 2012.  It will give definition to everything you do (and we know you’re all doing a lot!) and help you find meaning when you're sure it isn't there.  Writing a 3,000 word paper on the history of agriculture in southern California?  Wrestling with the photocopier at work to print double-sided?  Struggling through training sessions for the Sun Run?  It’s all part of the journey, friends.  Your personal mission statement is the destination.

checks and balances

Not sure about you guys, but I’m already feeling a tad run off my feet and it’s only the second week of January.  Seems that returning to work or school after what many call the “silly season” (read: December) can be about as exhausting as the so-called holiday break itself.  Go figure. Last week we talked goals.  Which is awesome.  We gotta have ‘em, and we need to work toward achieving them, or else what are we here for, right?  “I will put $500 a month toward saving for a new car.”  “I will go to two aerobics classes a week for six weeks, then switch up my workouts.”  “I will not put my phone on the table during mealtimes with my family or significant other.”  And so on and so forth.

But just as it’s important to aim high, it’s also important to take a breath.  Ladies like us, who are always looking to think more, do more, be more – sometimes we forget what it’s like to just be.  So in this month of potential overextension in the name of those New Year’s resolutions you just set, do something different: forgive yourself every so often, and remember to check and balance yourself while you’re at it.

What does it mean to check and balance?  Well, for one thing, it’s a clever play on words (we at YWiB are quick and witty, after all).  In all seriousness though, what we mean is to check yourself for astronomically high stress levels, feelings of being overwhelmed or a mind going miles a minute when you really need it to slooooow down.  Then you have to balance yourself.  It can be as easy as inhaling and exhaling.  Or maybe you walk away and go bake cookies.  Whatever it is, whatever you want to do – bring yourself back from teetering off the edge of that really high cliff we tend to climb, just because we can.

Another thing, girls – checking and balancing is a year-round activity!  Working hard means we can and should be rewarded with playing hard.  Life is a balancing act, and we all need a reminder that keeping everything in the air Every. Single. Day. is an unfair expectation to put on ourselves.  Whether you want to lead the department at work, score a 4.0 GPA or learn how to code your own website, remember that it’s okay to take small steps forward and backward.  And it’s also okay to stay in one spot for a little while.  It’s all part of the balance.

Tell us how you check and balance yourself!  Do you go for walks?  Practice yoga?  Have a coffee?  Read a magazine?  Take a Youtube break (sometimes a sneezing panda is all you need!)?  Let us know on Facebook or Twitter (click @ywib to follow us!)!

And if you need another reminder...check out The Sabbath Manifesto: a YWiB favourite, slowing people down since 2010.  Ahhhh...

my YWiB story: sasha

With YWiB there is always a story to tell – featuring Sasha Evans  ~written by Darya Niknamian I sat down with Sasha Evans, a YWiB fan, a go getter and most importantly a good friend. Sasha’s story and overall YWiB experience drove me to volunteer with the organization and I am writing this in hopes of sharing a glimpse into one person’s experience with Young Women in Business.

Sasha’s exposure to YWiB began with the 2008 Beyond Pink Conference, an event she called “inspirational, welcoming and educational.” She met many inspiring women and speakers who taught her that you can do anything you put your mind to, you just need to follow your passion and have a vision. After the conference Sasha could not sit still, Beyond Pink and all of its elements provided her with a great platform and a spark that led her to develop a fundraiser.

Sasha knew she wanted to do something she was passionate about – dance! At the time she was involved with Global Agents for Change (a non-profit organization) and decided to incorporate her love for dance and desire to raise money for a good cause and voila, a fundraiser called “An Evening for Arts” was cooked up. Working to produce the event for four gruelling months, Sasha was able to raise a total of $10,000 in one night.

Throughout our conversation, Sasha reiterated time and time again that you can do anything you want but it is extremely important to know why you are doing it! She had to put up her own money to rent the dance hall and was turned down by several companies when searching for sponsorship and in-kind donations. At times the whole planning process was discerning and difficult and Sasha found herself asking “why am I doing this?” Her answer always turned out to be the same, I believe in the cause I am supporting and I love dancing.

Now working at a finance firm and pursuing her 3rd level CFA, Sasha is working towards another goal – to be taken seriously as a young female investor. One experience she reflected on at Beyond Pink was an activity where everyone had to write down their biggest life goals and whether or not they had the resources to help them. She remembers an individual writing ‘I want to cure cancer’ – a goal which reminds us to all aim high and let nothing stop you from following your passions.

New Year, New You!

We’ve all made promises, said the words, and probably even wrote down our resolutions for a new year telling ourselves that 2011 was going to be THE year for change!! ….But was it? It is important to set goals and actively monitor them to keep yourself on track but if you’ve found that your method isn’t providing results don’t give up, try another approach!

Recalling POP (Place of Possibility), an event hosted by YWiB in 2011, we wanted to share our insights collected over the year from some highly motivated goal setters to ensure 2012 is YOUR best year yet!!

Consider your goals, in detail, and then put them down on paper or if a goal of yours is to save paper, type them into an electronic document.

When setting your goals be SPECIFIC! If one of your personal goals is to save more money make note of HOW you plan to save that money. Ask yourself: Where will the saved funds come from? What will I cut out of my life to create this excess cash? And, how am I going to monitor my savings? For example, “By June 10, 2012 I plan to have saved $2,500 in a building block GIC account. I’ll save this money by dining out once a week and buying coffee once a week instead of daily.”

And if your goal is to be more physically active ask yourself in what ways do you want to be more active. “I plan to run the 10K Vancouver Sun Run on April 15th in less than 50 minutes.” OR “Not only will I set aside 3-4 hours a week to commit to my gym membership this year but I am going to register for spin classes twice a week to keep me on track.”

Consider goals that may seem “out of reach”. A goal wouldn’t be worth setting if you didn’t have to work hard to achieve it. Keeping that in mind, push yourself by setting goals that are barely attainable so that you are challenging yourself!

Focus on timelines. Setting short-term (0-6 months or even 1 year) goals are critical to ensuring long-term (1 – 5+ years) goal achievement. Because you are setting specific goals for yourself deadline dates shouldn’t be a surprise. “I will host my first art showing on July 15, 2011.” OR “I will participate in my first competitive half-marathon in August 2012 and full marathon by October 30th, 2012.” (Of course if you are a runner it would be best to choose specific races you wish to qualify for.)

Categorize your goals. “Personal/Health”, “Professional”, “Financial”, etc. This will help you to remain organized as well as focused on your objectives.

Add to your goals throughout the year. Goal setting shouldn’t be an annual thing you make yourself do, make it part of your routine. Keep a journal or agenda that is specific to your goals and put it somewhere that will remind you of them regularly.

Forget fear and don’t let failures get in your way! The most successful people in the world have ALL failed it’s no secret. The secret is that their failures taught them wonderful lessons and those lessons encouraged them to continue striving for their dreams. For those times when you feel like you’ve failed at something read this blog post. Bookmark it, it’s worth it!

Find a format that works for you and use it. There are a lot of goal-setting structures (and Apps) out there so find your favorite and use it. I have yet to find a great App for me but I like to write my goals down. If you find a good one please share it with me but until then, Lululemon Athletica is the creator of my personal favorite, I love the colours!

Final tip, accountability is key! Consider someone you can appoint to hold you accountable to your goals. A friend? A partner? A parent? Find someone you trust and can be honest with. It may be easiest to find someone who’s willing to make the same commitment to goal setting so you can support one another. We’ll call it “Goal Setting Anonymous”.

So if you only make one New Years Resolution this January make the best resolution for you, SET GOALS IN 2012!! “If you want something, go get it. Period.” Good luck and feel free to share some of those goals with us via @ywib.

And if all this hasn’t convinced you to stop making excuses – check out Matt Scott’s “No Excuses” Commercial http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=obdd31Q9PqA

 

Happy Holidays from the Ladies at YWiB!!

We wanted to take a moment to touch base with everyone who has taken the time to connect with us throughout 2011. Your support has been the most significant aspect of our year and we’d like to thank you for making it one of the most exciting and challenging years at YWiB! We look forward to more events, speaker series and conferences to come in 2012! Also, we wanted to take the time to encourage you to remember to connect with your network this holiday season. Sending a holiday greeting can go a long way. The holiday season is an excellent opportunity to lay the groundwork for your networking circle in 2012! The best part is that it’s quick, inexpensive and easy to do, you’ll also feel like you’re giving a little extra in the well-wishes department this year. Like any great networker will tell you, be selfless. It’s not what that connection can do for you but what you can do for them so reach out to remind them you’re thinking about them during the busiest time of the year (if you’re in accounting, the second busiest time of the year). Never underestimate the power of a simple “Happy Holidays & All the Best in 2012!”, we promise it will go a long way.

Alternative methods to keep you connected this time of year could be e-cards, paper cards, a small token of appreciation (everyone loves chocolate) or even if you have zero time, a short and sweet “Merry Christmakkah” email. It’s not the size of the message but the thought of the message itself that will go a long way in solidifying that professional relationship and leave you fresh in their mind all season long. Not to mention they’ll know you are a networking pro for reaching out to them before they had a chance to reach out to you.

So, from the bottom of our YWiB-y hearts….

~ Wishing You Happiest of Holidays & the Greatest Success in the Year to Come!!

YWiB's Miss Representation screening featured in National Post & Huffington Post!

Jane Macdougall, National Post, attended YWiB's screening of Miss Representation and shared:

The Vancouver organization Young Women In Business hosted Monday’s screening. They’re the ones on the battlefield right now and they get it. Miss Representation asks, “How can you become what you cannot see?” and it dawned on me: It’s hard to see past the cookie aisle these days.

For more, visit the full article here.

Amy Chan, Huffington Post, joined YWiB as a panelist for Miss Representation. Visit the story and experiences she shared here.

Miss Representation: The Issues

Post by ywib marketing team member - @MeganRendell Think about it…. Women make up a mere:

  • 3% of clout positions in the mainstream media,
  • 3% of Fortune 500 CEO’s,
  • 7% of mainstream film directors,
  • 16% of film protagonists,
  • Canadian women earn $0.72 or every $1 a man earns

yet our gender is representative of 51% of the population.

On Monday December 5th, YWiB, in collaboration with NetworkinginVan.com, Vancouver YWCA, and PeaceGeeks, hosted a screening of the powerful documentary “Miss Representation” written, directed and produced by Jennifer Siebel Newsom.  This 90-min documentary unveils the under-representation of women in positions of power and influence in North America as well as the limited portrayal of women and girls in mainstream media.

Along with the documentary screening, a panel of speakers were assembled to facilitate an interactive conversation regarding the probable causes of this misrepresentation of women in leadership positions. Moderated by Janet Austin, CEO @YWCAVAN, the panel consisted of 4 distinguished Vancouverites: Pamela Martin, former CTV News anchor and current Director of Outreach in the Premier’s Office @Pamelamartin_bc; Amy Chan, columnist for 24 Hours Newspaper and The Huffington Post @amyfabulous; our male Kirk LaPointe, Ombudsman at CBC, themediamanager.com and UBC School of Journalism adjunct professor @kirklapointe; and Carolyn Jacks, National Vice-Chair of Equal Voice and journalist.

The dialogue of the evening began with some Canadian statistics that offered contrast to the American data supplied by the film. The documentary stated that on average women in the US earn salaries equal to $0.77 on the dollar in comparison to the same positions held by a man. In comparison, Canadian women are earning less at a mere $0.72 on the dollar. Progressively, Canada shows some promise with regard to female political leaders when stacked up against our US counterparts with Canadian women comprising 25% of MPs, 23% of municipal councilors and 33% of MLAs. Considering women represent roughly 51% of the population of our country relatively, these numbers are still low.

Following introductions, the panel was faced with a variety of topics which included the effect media has had on the participation of women engaging in politics professionally, the extent to which the media can be held responsible for the (sexualized) portrayals of women and what we, as a whole society can do individually to support young people in general with overcoming these challenges.

Topic # 1: The under-representation of women, young women, in Canadian Politics

Diving into the topic Kirk LaPointe shared that his belief is that the largest deterrent for women is the job itself as ”it’s grueling and not truly fit for anyone.” Pamela Martin agreed and shared that although she’s covered politics the past 30 years she never realized how long and trying it is to be in the public eye calling it a true “blood-sport”. Understandably, she went on its easy to see why many women, or anyone, decide they do not need or want that type of attention. “It’s more than a 10-hour day, every single day, 7 days a week. That’s true if you are the premier or if you are an MLA.” Carolyn Jacks weighed in pointing towards the 3-stage process of getting elected as the largest deterrent for anyone.  Step 1: Individual nominates themselves to run; Step 2: Party has to elect her/him to run for them; Step 3: Public votes for their representative.  Equal Voice finds that Canadians are not particularly bias to whether they elect a male or female, it’s the party that doesn’t tend to nominate women in “winnable-ridings.”  She also suggested that the confrontational way politics is discussed needs to change and can help the popularity of the profession as a whole.

Probable solutions to these issues, Martin suggests that services such as childcare assistance for families involved in politics would help well-balanced people get involved. “After all isn’t that who we want to be leading us, well balanced human beings who are in touch with what people’s lives are like?”

Topic #2: The role the media plays in the demoralization of females and discouraging women to become leaders

Kirk quickly argued that media cannot fully be held accountable, even though he agrees that they are a large contributor; “everyone must accept that we are individually responsible.” He elaborated, “We are in this era of abundance where conventional media no longer controls their ability to sell an audience to an advertiser. The advertising business model is beginning to shake pretty badly and until new models emerge to somewhat salvage some of this there will be a race to the bottom in order to secure a rather temporary, transient audience that will fill the bucket today financially.” Agreeing with Kirk, Pamela brought up the fragmentation of the media market as another source of the elevated exploitation of women and celebrity.  “I think it’s forced all the media to veer away from the things we used to have on television, including really great journalism…the media in general is pushed to an extreme to try to win audience share… To me that is why the sexualization has gotten so extreme as well as the violence.”

A better understanding of society’s infatuation with celebrity could lead to solutions of this issue as Kirk explained.  “Every piece of research I’ve seen inside media demonstrates no matter how old you are, how much education, income, or gender, you are fascinated with celebrity culture. It’s important to understand that and not belittle it. What we need is a better treatment of celebrity culture so that we can understand how it illustrates human condition in some respect or how it can be used to mobilize politically and socially in society.” It’s not a matter of shutting off the TV but about supporting the channels that “tell the stories you want hear and reinforcing that. Advertisers will in turn respond if you begin to vote with your feet and your remote.” ‘Amy Fabulous’ (Chan) weighed in saying that if we “wait for media to change its going to take a very long time but if we change the lens in which we absorb and see the media, thus understanding what creates self-worth and women’s empowerment, the way that we see and absorb media will be different.”

On this note Kirk expressed the importance of (social) media to be used correctly to “bring forward the best of the shift in society.” He also discussed that he has always felt that music leads the world to change and highlighted the fact that this past year women have been well represented on the top charts creating some of the most inspirational music. Naming specifically Adele, Kelly Clarkson and Florence Welch as excellent role models. “I see great hope in that women, young women in particular, are seeing themselves in the spotlight.”

Reflecting on local media coverage Kirk expressed a serious concern he has, “there is one huge hiccup I cannot understand and I ran a newsroom for a long time...I do not understand how it is that we’ve staged an Olympics in this city yet we do not have women in the sports section of our paper or on television.” On this note, Janet Austin explained that she had read a report written by the American Psychological Association, regarding the increased trend to sexualize female athletes and after reading it went to review a newsstand. She “found 5 sport magazines; 4 of them were of men who were actively engaging in sport and 1 of them was a woman who was wearing a bikini and just passively standing there.” Up until this point she had never thought too much of this and was surprised at how desensitized to this she had become.

Following the panel discussion was a Q & A session that raised questions regarding the ability to frame a society of men and women working together to create a gender equal society, how to best engage men in this dialogue and how to find positive male role models that are capable of leading by example.

Carolyn immediately pointed out that men are engaged and discussed employers who’ve developed programs that have specifically focused on increasing women’s roles in decision-making capacities in newsroom. These programs were developed by her male leaders. “Men need to recognize the privileged position from which they can speak and that if they don’t take that humbly, then they’re missing a real opportunity,” Kirk urged. He went on to point out that although the hostility is wearing down in newsrooms, he wouldn’t necessarily vouch for corporate offices.  Adding to both points, Pamela mention that although today “local news is largely represented by women, one of the reasons is that women are generally willing to be paid less money, therefore, less men are seeking local television jobs.”

The final question of the evening came from a young man seeking guidance to find better role models in today’s society. He stated that it’s hard to find “strong male role models that are sensitive to gender issues and can discuss these issues in a social context in a way that is cool or comfortable with other men.” The panelists didn’t immediately have an answer to this but after a few short moments, Pamela suggested that they are out there. When you come across these men in today's society hold tightly to that relationship she urged.  Look to your peers, co-workers, and family and start this conversation. We all have the ability to stimulate change if we so choose.

For more information about the documentary “Miss Representation” please visit  http://missrepresentation.org/ and check back for information regarding additional screenings brought to you by YWiB in the new year. In the meantime, start the conversation.